Dos semanas atrás, estaba leyendo algo sobre discriminación sexual, o más exactamente, discriminación cuando los gays quieres donar sangre. A ellos no se les permite porque las autoridades sanitarias todavía los consideran como una población insegura, peligrosa y promiscua.
Hace dos años doné sangre dos veces, no me importó la regla la cual lucía injusta para mí. Mis pensamientos eran: "eso es discriminación, estoy sano, puedo donar, ¿ a quién le importa con quién duermo? eso no es importante" (tengo que decir, por ese tiempo yo estaba en una relación muy estable, y he tomado el test de Elisa hace un año). AHORA, no pienso así. ¿Por qué cambié de opinión?
Cuando leí este articulo acerca de discriminación, recordé que hace cinco meses hubo una campaña de "donación de sangre" en mi ciudad. deci´di no donar sangre esta vez porque estaba un poco enfermo, con gripe, pero uno de mis profesores, quien siempre dona sangre, me reconoció y me preguntó si donaría sangre esta vez y me dió una hoja con preguntas (nada nuevo), cuando le expliqué porqué no podía esta vez, lo entendió... pero yo ya estaba leyendo todas las preguntas, y por supuesto la parte de: "¿es usted homosexual?", "¿ha tenido relaciones homosexuales en los últimos seis meses?"
Bueno, este profesor es doctor también, así que no pude, y no quise tampoco, evitar preguntar: "profesor, ¿por qué en el siglo XXI, los gays todavia estan prohibidos de donar sangre?".
su respuesta fue simple: "por el SIDA... principalmente". Obviamente sentí esto como un poco ofensivo y repliqué: pero usted me enseñó que el SIDA no discrimina, y ultimamente el SIDA esta siendo más común entre las mujeres monogamas en este país.
"Sí, es cierto - dijo- pero usualmente sus maridos son bisexuales"
"pero - insistí - la gente heterosexual no usa condones... la mayoria del tiempo, mientras que casi todos los gays (que conozco) prefieren usarlo.
- es triste, pero cierto - él dijo- pero usualmente, cuando la "gente normal" es infiel, tiene uno o dos amantes, no más, es un "círculo muy exclusivo", así que, si todos ellos están sanos, seguirán estando sanos, pero usualmente la gente gay, tiene un montón de sexo con desconocidos, sólo por un rato, ¿sabías eso?
Maldita sea, por supuesto que lo sabía, mejor que él; cada vez que he tratado de chatear, de encontrar un nuevo amigo, lo que encuentro es: "¿quieres sexo?", "pasivo busca activo", "estoy solo, ¿quieres venir?", "tengo una buena pinga o culo, lo que quieras". Sentí como si hubiera perdido todas mis defensas, sólo habia una respuesta que podía darle:
- pero usan condón.
- los condones no son 100% efectivos.
- ¿no lo son?
- no, vamos, eres inteligente, piensa en eso; la gente acepta que el condón es sólo 98% efectivo evitando el embarazo, pero cuando hablamos del VIH, ellos no quieren aceptar que el condón no sea 100% efectivo. Mi pregunta es ¿por qué?, es la misma cosa, el mismo mecanismo: algo escapó del condón, y si algo escapó algo tambien puede entrar, y deberías recordar que el VIH es más pequeño que el espermatozoide, ellos no quieren reconocer que el estilo de vida de "sexo seguro rápido" no es tán seguro, ellos quieren seguir teniendo sexo con cualquiera sin preocupaciones, especialmente los gays. Sé que no es justo, quizás hay gays que no son promicuos, pero no es justo tampoco cuando un niño se infecta en un hospital. Dices que los gays usan condones, pero el SIDA sigue creciendo entre ellos, lo siento por los gays, pero como autoridad sanitaria... ¿que decisión tomarias?
Entonces, sí, es discriminación; pero hay una razón para ello, es injusto para nosotros, pero es justo para el resto de la gente. Nos merecemos esta discriminación, asi es cómo nos ve la gente por culpa de nuestro comportamiento. ¿Cómo puedes estar seguro que el hombre que conociste hoy está sano? ¿Cómo puede ÉL estar seguro, si tuvo sexo con un desconocido hace dos días?, Mientras mas parejas sexuales tienes, tienes más probabilidades de ser parte de ese 1%.
Two weeks ago, i was reading something about sexual discrimination, or more exactly, discrimination when gays want to donate blood. They are not allowed because sanitaires authorities still consider them as a population unsafe, dangerous and promiscuous.
Two years ago, i donated blood twice, i didn't care about that rule which used to look unfair to me. My toughts were: "that's discrimination, i am sane, i can donate, who cares about whom i sleep with?, that's not important" (i gotta say, by that time i was in a relationship very stable and i have taken the Elisa's test one year ago). NOW, i don't think like that. Why did i change my mind?
When i read this article about discrimantion, i remembered that 5 months ago, there was a campain of "donating blood" in my city, i decided not to donate my blood this time beacuse i was a little sick, with cold; but one of my professors, who always donates blood, recognized me and he asked me if i would donate blood this time and he gave me a page with questions (nothing new), when i explained why i couldn't this time, he understood... but i was already reading all the questions and, of course, the part of " are you homosexual?" "have you had homosexual sex in the last six months?"
Well, this professor is also a doctor, so i couldn't, i didn't want either, avoid to ask: "professor, excuse me, why in XXI century, gay people is still prohibited to donate blood?"
his answer was simple: "because the AIDS... mostly", obviously, i felt this as a little offensive and i repliced : but you taught me that the AIDS does not discrimante, and lately, AIDS, is getting more common betwen monogamous women in this country".
"yeah, that's right - he said - but usually their husbands are bisexuals"
"but - i insisted - straight people don't wear condoms... most of the time, meanwhile almost all of gays (who i know) prefere to wear it.
" that's sad, but truth -he said - but usually "normal people", when they are unfaithfull, have one or two lovers, no more, it is a very "exclusive circle", so, if all of them are sane, they will keep being sane, but usually gay people has a lot of sex with unknown poeple, just for a while, did you know that?"
damn it, of course i knew that, better than him, everytime i have tried to chat, to find a new friend, what i find is "do you want sex?", "bottom look for top", "i am alone, do you want to come?", "i have a nice cock or ass, whatever you like". i felt like i had lost my defends, there was only one answer i could give him.
-"but they wear condoms"
- comdoms are not 100% effective
- are't they?
- No, come on, you are smart, think about it, people accept comdom is just 98% effective avoiding the pregnancy, but when we talk about VIH, they don't want to accept comdoms are not 100% effectives. My question is :why?, it's the same thing, same mechanism: something escaped from the comdom, and if something escaped , something can enter too, and you should remember VIH is smaller than a spermatozon, they don't want to recognize that the life style of "fast safe sex" is not so safe, they wanna keep having sex with anybody without worries, specially gays, i know it's not fair, maybe there are gays who are not promiscouos, but it's not fair either when a child gets infeccted in a hospital. You say gay people wear comdoms, but AIDS betwen them keep growing, i am sorry for gays, but... as a saniataire authoritie... What decision would you make?
Two years ago, i donated blood twice, i didn't care about that rule which used to look unfair to me. My toughts were: "that's discrimination, i am sane, i can donate, who cares about whom i sleep with?, that's not important" (i gotta say, by that time i was in a relationship very stable and i have taken the Elisa's test one year ago). NOW, i don't think like that. Why did i change my mind?
When i read this article about discrimantion, i remembered that 5 months ago, there was a campain of "donating blood" in my city, i decided not to donate my blood this time beacuse i was a little sick, with cold; but one of my professors, who always donates blood, recognized me and he asked me if i would donate blood this time and he gave me a page with questions (nothing new), when i explained why i couldn't this time, he understood... but i was already reading all the questions and, of course, the part of " are you homosexual?" "have you had homosexual sex in the last six months?"
Well, this professor is also a doctor, so i couldn't, i didn't want either, avoid to ask: "professor, excuse me, why in XXI century, gay people is still prohibited to donate blood?"
his answer was simple: "because the AIDS... mostly", obviously, i felt this as a little offensive and i repliced : but you taught me that the AIDS does not discrimante, and lately, AIDS, is getting more common betwen monogamous women in this country".
"yeah, that's right - he said - but usually their husbands are bisexuals"
"but - i insisted - straight people don't wear condoms... most of the time, meanwhile almost all of gays (who i know) prefere to wear it.
" that's sad, but truth -he said - but usually "normal people", when they are unfaithfull, have one or two lovers, no more, it is a very "exclusive circle", so, if all of them are sane, they will keep being sane, but usually gay people has a lot of sex with unknown poeple, just for a while, did you know that?"
damn it, of course i knew that, better than him, everytime i have tried to chat, to find a new friend, what i find is "do you want sex?", "bottom look for top", "i am alone, do you want to come?", "i have a nice cock or ass, whatever you like". i felt like i had lost my defends, there was only one answer i could give him.
-"but they wear condoms"
- comdoms are not 100% effective
- are't they?
- No, come on, you are smart, think about it, people accept comdom is just 98% effective avoiding the pregnancy, but when we talk about VIH, they don't want to accept comdoms are not 100% effectives. My question is :why?, it's the same thing, same mechanism: something escaped from the comdom, and if something escaped , something can enter too, and you should remember VIH is smaller than a spermatozon, they don't want to recognize that the life style of "fast safe sex" is not so safe, they wanna keep having sex with anybody without worries, specially gays, i know it's not fair, maybe there are gays who are not promiscouos, but it's not fair either when a child gets infeccted in a hospital. You say gay people wear comdoms, but AIDS betwen them keep growing, i am sorry for gays, but... as a saniataire authoritie... What decision would you make?
so, yeah, this is discrimination, but there is a reason after all, it's unfair for us, but it's fair for the rest of the people . We deserve this discrimination, this is how people see us, because our behavior . How can you be sure that the man you just know today is sane? how can HE be sure if he had sex with an unknown man just two days ago? while more sexual partner you have, you have also more probabilities to be part of that 1%.
